Can’t we all just get along?

I recently watched a Youtube video where I was affected so deeply, I wept.  A young person spoke about the need of human beings to be validated.  Not only does this 21 year old have a beautiful outlook on life, but perhaps a way to communicate that allows for us all to ‘just get along’!   How often have you been in a discussion where the topic becomes impassable?  Your fellow discussionees are no longer listening to you and you’re tired of hearing what point they keep hammering.  “Don’t these people shut up long enough to hear anything other than their own voice?”  “Are they so brilliant, that no one else could ever possibly have the slightest bit of wisdom that is worthy of consideration?”

Well, isn’t that exactly the problem….  you’re thinking the same thing that they are!  The conversation is trapped in a viscious loop of everyone thinking “that person is so selfish!”, and honestly, isn’t that the most selfish thing we could ever say?!   How about trying, “That person must not feel like they’re being heard”  or “That person, and their belief system, are being discounted through my actions”. 

What would this new behavior do for a stifled conversation? A broken relationship?  An underperforming work group?     I get exhilarated just thinking about it!!

Ok, I agree, it may not help anything the first time we try it. Or maybe even the second.  But, if we start, and don’t give up easily, we’ll plant the seeds of civility and empathy.  Who knows, maybe the behavior will catch on!  Think about it, how do most people behave the moment they’ve been validated?   With inner peace and outer openness.  Sounds like the foundation of progressive communication to me. 

Thank you, Ellie, for your words of wisdom.  You are both fancy and fabulous! You are beautiful inside and out, and the world is a much better place because of your existence!   Much love to you from the Goddesses  xoxo

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